5 Proven Tips to Ask Your Bridesmaids to your Wedding Party

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Written By Aaron Smith

Rev. Aaron Smith enjoys sharing insights from over 10 years of wedding officiating experience.

If you are wondering when to ask your bridesmaids to be a part of your wedding events this blog post is for you!

By the end of this post, you will have an idea of when to invite your bridesmaids to wedding events based on how much time you have before your wedding.

Ask your Bridesmaids Ahead of Time

The standard time frame to send out invitations is 6 months before your wedding but that’s the time frame for wedding guests. For your wedding party anywhere around 9 months is sensible but for your bridesmaids, you are safe to invite them up to 1 year before your planned wedding date.

When Should You Invite Bridesmaids?

The challenge is when to know when to invite your bridesmaids because you have so many events like your wedding shower, bridesmaids’ day, and of course rehearsal dinner, ceremony, and reception. We will provide some guidelines for when you should invite your bridesmaids based on when your wedding will take place.

Ready for Wedding Party Invitations

The exciting day is getting near. You have your wedding date set, and maybe even your venue and your design are coming along. Now it’s time to invite your wedding party including your bridesmaids to be a part of your special day. But when? When do you send them invitations?

Getting Ready for the Party

It’s important to give your bridesmaids enough time to get ready for your wedding events. They will need to plan their budget especially if traveling to a bridesmaids’ day or to the wedding is involved, or both. Also, giving your bridesmaids is kind and courteous because let’s face it. Bridesmaids have the toughest job during the wedding. We’ll explain why that’s true later.

The good news is that with the toughest job comes the best rewards. Bridesmaids also get the bet gifts and have the best time. Along with the bride who is the star of the show the bridesmaids are also spotlighted as well.

Why Bridesmaids Need More Notice

The reason bridesmaids need more time is that they will have more planning to do. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again Bridesmaids have the most responsibility on wedding day besides the couple and in some ways even more as they are supporting the couple, especially the bride. For this reason, giving your bridesmaids a little extra time to make plans makes sense for several reasons.

Bridesmaids may not have more events to attend but the events they attend and their role in them is greater. The design, the locations, the attire, the games, the planning is all more involved for bridesmaids. All of this takes time and attention to detail and you will be glad you have that extra 3 months to plan.

Unique Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids

There are all kinds of ways to ask your bridesmaids to stand with you on your day especially in today’s world where long-distance is necessary. Asking your bridesmaids has become its own phenomenon these days with brides going all out and making specific invitations for the wedding party. For example, you can send custom-made invitations, flowers, your favorite treat or more brides than ever are asking their bridesmaids virtually! Don’t forget to check our blog post on how to ask your bridesmaids long-distance.

How to Virtually Ask Someone to be Your Bridesmaid

When it comes to asking your bridesmaid to be a part of your wedding virtually there are more options than ever that will get the job done. Popular services like Zoom, Teams, and GoToMeeting just to name a few will give you great ways to reach out to your bridesmaids whether it’s as a group or individually. Here are a few things to remember when asking your bridesmaid virtually. Have an excellent background that will make your bridesmaid feel like they are joining something special.

This isn’t the time for a virtual background unless it is specially designed for this occasion. If possible, send something ahead of time and ask them to wait to open it until your virtual call. This method will build up a little suspense and get your bridesmaid excited about what’s coming. They will probably have some idea that they are about to get asked to be your bridesmaid if you are already engaged but this will add some excitement.

You’re Ready to Go!

Now you’re ready to ask your bridesmaids. Also, Wedistry offers a great web and App Store App to help keep track of your wedding party here: app.wedistry.com.

What to Do Next

Next, be sure to invite the rest of your wedding party such as your groomsmen, ushers, flower girl, ring bearer, musicians, and readers. Then you can work on your vendors as well.

Thank you for reading this blog post and we hope this helps with your wedding plan!

1 thought on “5 Proven Tips to Ask Your Bridesmaids to your Wedding Party”

  1. My sister’s wedding is at Victory North Savannah (http://www.victorynorthsavannah.com/weddings). We make certain that all members of the entourage are kept up to date and confirmed their attendance. It’s the most beautiful wedding I’ve ever seen. The venue adds to the worth of the wedding and matches the bride’s stunning grin on the wedding day.


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