5 Tips for Giving your Best Wedding Toast

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Written By Aaron Smith

Rev. Aaron Smith enjoys sharing insights from over 10 years of wedding officiating experience.

This post is to help the maid of honor or the best man to give your best wedding toast. You’ve been asked to fill this role at the wedding, and now you must know how to do it well.

By the end of this blog post, you will be much closer to giving your best wedding toast.

The challenge with a wedding toast is that we do so few of them. Even the most experienced pros might do this less than 5 to 10 times in their lifetime max. With anything we don’t have the chance to do regularly, meeting the moment can be challenging. We will have a few chances to practice

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Getting ready to write

Just because a toast is brief doesn’t mean you can’t prepare as much as you need to. Talk with your mutual friends and family to ensure your story is straight. In this case, too much is probably just enough.

Knowing your stuff

Also, check your information with one or two people to be sure you’re saying the right things in your toast. This will ensure you’re giving your best wedding toast!

What if you could be completely prepared to give your best wedding toast? What if you didn’t have to guess whether or not it would go well? With the right preparation, you will feel confident that you have prepared the right way and given the best wedding toast possible.

We all know that speaking publicly is tough. But even for those who are not pro speakers, you can feel great about giving your best wedding toast.

Your Best Wedding Toast

Writing a toast does not have to be daunting. One of the keys to your best wedding toast is to enjoy giving it. If you can get to a place where you have practiced enough and feel like you are giving the toast naturally and enjoy what you’re doing, in other words, genuinely smile while delivering it, you are ready! Here are your steps for getting ready:

Introductions. You (briefly) and the bride/groom

Be sure not to take too much time introducing yourself. The wedding party and guests will know what you are doing because it’s a time-honored tradition. Also, you can explain who you are as a part of the short stories you tell. It’s better time conserving if you introduce yourself in the story than doing it separately.

Next, introduce the bride or groom by quickly explaining how you know them. Please don’t get too caught up in details like how long you’ve known them or other facts. People want to know how you emotionally connect to them and why you were chosen to serve in this sacred role.

Remember the Time (well)

Have fun looking down memory road and including a relatable story that will help everyone get to know one another. An embarrassing story from you or something that genuinely makes the bride or groom look good will work well. But don’t share something that is not a good representation of who they are. Focus on their known and endearing characteristics. For example, if they are always punctual, tell a story about how they helped you to be on time to class in college.

Details, Details, Details

Although we don’t want too many facts, be sure to paint the picture well of who the bride or groom is you’re introducing. Use descriptive words to explain who you are introducing. Remember, you’re introducing the bride or groom to the wedding party and guests, possibly for the first time. This is not done during the ceremony. The bride and groom’s friends get the honor of sharing personal stories about them.

Just Enough Humor

Now, this might be the most important part of the toast. Humor. The key is not to try to be funnier than you are. This is why it’s so important to practice with someone you know well to ensure that your toast represents you and the bride or groom well. A good friend will know your sense of humor well enough to know whether or not a joke is appropriate for you.

Connect your Stories

Finally, after you’ve done the background work, you want to show gratitude to the bride or groom and make them feel welcome in this community, this can be done a lot of different ways, but at the end of the day, you want to say something to the effect of, the bride/groom couldn’t have found a perfect person to spend the rest of their life with. We welcome you fully to the family. These are the two keys that will go a long way.

Remember to keep it short and sweet. The last thing you want is to take more time than you were given to make the toast. Trust me, you don’t want to alter the wedding schedule 1 more second than you need to. A ton goes into getting the schedule right and costs associated with a schedule that goes over time.

Also, check this great video for tips as well!

Now time to get writing! A good toast is no more than 5 minutes. This is something that you want to practice to get just right. A good person to practice with is another person at the wedding party, except for the bride or groom.

I am hoping that you feel better about your best wedding toast!

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