This post is to help the maid of honor or the best man to give your best wedding toast. You’ve been asked to fill this role at the wedding and now you need to know how how to do it well.
By the end of this blog post, you will be much closer to giving your best wedding toast.
The challenge with a wedding toast is that we do so few of them. Even the most experienced pros might do this less than 5 to 10 times in their lifetime max. With anything that we don’t have the chance to do regularly, it can be a challenge to meet the moment. We will have a few chances to practice
Getting ready to write
Just because a toast it brief doesn’t mean that you can’t prepare as much as you need to. Talk with your mutual friends and family to make sure your story is straight. In this case, too much is actually probably just enough.
Knowing your stuff
Also, check your information with one or two people to be sure you’re saying the right things in your toast. This will ensure you’re giving your best wedding toast!
What if you could be completely prepared to give your best wedding toast? What if you didn’t have to guess whether or not it was going to go well? With the right preparation, you will feel confident that you have prepared the right way and give the best wedding toast possible.
We all know that speaking publicly is tough. But even for those who are not pro speakers you can definitely feel great about giving your best wedding toast.
Your Best Wedding Toast
Writing a toast does not have to be daunting. Actually, one of the keys to your best wedding toast is to enjoy giving it. If you can get to a place where you have practiced enough and feel like you are giving the toast naturally and enjoy what you’re doing, in other words, genuinely smile while delivering it you are ready! Here are your steps for getting ready:
Introductions. Yourself (briefly) and the bride/groom
Be sure not to take too much time introducing yourself. The wedding party and guests will know what you are doing because it’s a time-honored tradition. Also, you will be able to explain who you are as a part of the short stories you will tell. It’s better an time conserving if you introduce yourself in the story than doing it separately.
Next, introduce the bride or groom by quickly explaining how you know them. Don’t get too caught up in details like how long you’ve known them or other facts. People want to know how you are emotionally connected to them and why you were chosen to serve in this very sacred role.
Remember the Time (well)
Have fun looking back down memory road and including a relatable story or two that will help everyone get to know one another. An embarrassing story from you or something that genuinely makes the bride or groom look good will work well. But don’t share something that is not a good representation of who they are as a person. Focus on their known and endearing characteristics. For example, if they are always punctual tell a story about how they helped you to be on time to class in college or something like that.
Details, Details, Details
Although we don’t want too many facts be sure to paint the picture well of who the bride or groom is you’re introducing. Use descriptive words to explain who you are introducing. Remember, you’re actually introducing the bride or groom to the wedding party and guests possibly for the first time. This is not done during the ceremony. The friends of the bride and groom get the honor of sharing personal stories about them.
Just Enough Humor
Now, this might be the most important part of the toast. Humor. The key is to not try to be more funny than you are. This is why it’s so important to practice with someone you know well to make sure that your toast represents you and the bride or groom well. A good friend will know your sense of humor well enough to know whether or not a joke is appropriate for you.
Connect your Stories
Finally, after you’ve done the background work you want to show gratitude to the bride or groom and make them feel welcome in this community. This can be done a lot of different ways but at the end of the day you want to say something to the effect of, the bride/groom couldn’t have found a more perfect person to spend the rest of their life with and we welcome you fully to the family. These are the 2 keys that will go a long way.
Remember to keep it short and sweet. The last thing you want to do is to take more time than you were given to do the toast. Trust me, you don’t want to alter the wedding schedule 1 more second than you need to. There’s a ton that goes into getting the schedule right and costs associated with a schedule that goes over time.
Also, check this great video for tips as well!
Now time to get writing! A good toast is no more than 5 minutes. This is something that you definitely want to practice to get just right. A good person to practice with is another person in the wedding party except for the bride or groom of course.
Hoping that you feel better about your best wedding toast!