This post is for those feeling a little nervous before wedding events. We will cover why you may be nervous and whether being nervous is a healthy emotion before your wedding.
The goal of Wedistry is to help reduce stress. We hope that by the time you finish reading this blog post, you will feel better about how you feel.
The challenge for any bride and groom is that wedding planning and getting married present a unique set of circumstances with unusual emotions. We rarely deal with these emotions at one time in our lives. Wedding planning is highly stressful on its own. When it’s our wedding that we’re planning and thinking about making a lifetime commitment to our spouse, we are handling multiple types of stress at one time.
What if you knew feeling nervous before wedding events was perfectly normal? What if you also knew that feeling nervous doesn’t mean you love your spouse any less than if you were not? And finally, what if you knew that being nervous before a wedding is a good, healthy sign that could mean you love your spouse?
In short, being nervous before a wedding does NOT make you a bad person. You may be nervous for all the right reasons, like wanting your wedding to go well without interruption. You may be nervous before wedding events because you want your guests to enjoy themselves. You may be nervous before the wedding because you are thinking about the cost of your wedding. There may be several perfectly good reasons you feel the way you do.
Being nervous alone is not a cause for concern. It is a perfectly healthy human emotion that means you are invested in what is happening. It means that you are alive and your heart is involved in what is happening. There may be other reasons to be concerned; however, being nervous alone is not one of them.
Reasons Why We Get Nervous Before Wedding Events
The Right Nervous
Remember that many events in our lives cause us to have good nerves. Remember your first time trying new food, riding a roller coaster, or asking someone to be your friend? Remember your first vacation, first date, or first time driving? At some point, we get used to getting nervous when we face new and exciting experiences, but when it comes time to be nervous before a wedding, we feel guilty about how we feel. We talk ourselves into believing that because we are nervous about embarking on the unknown, that means something about how we feel about the person. This is not true.
What to Watch
We can watch for things to be concerned about these feelings, such as not feeling prepared to marry the person or not feeling like we know the person intimately. These are reasons that our nervous feelings may be justified. Every couple should take the opportunity to prepare by attending pre-marital counseling to ensure they truly believe they are doing what is necessary to get ready to spend their life with this person.
The only real reason to be concerned is if you are unprepared to marry. But here’s the good news. You can set a plan for yourselves to ensure that the nervousness before the wedding is not as much about the unknown as it is that feeling of hopeful expectation.
Have a Little Help from a Friend
One of the best things you can do is literally to keep your emotions in front of you leading up to your wedding. This is not a time to retreat and not share your feelings. You should keep a healthy conversation with the pastor performing your pre-marital counseling with your spouse-to-be and a trusted friend who knows you well.
These conversations will keep you grounded and help you understand why you feel the way you do leading up to your wedding day. After all, you want to enjoy getting married. This is not just for your guests. This is one of the very few best days of your life.
A Plan for You
Your plan to handle your emotional outlook must be custom-tailored to you. How you express your feelings, the people you speak with, and your plan to destress will not look like the next person’s. Be creative and stay engaged with the preparation process, and you will be happy that you made a plan just for you.
Hopefully, by now, you know it’s okay to be nervous. But remember to keep talking about how you feel as often as you need to, especially with your future spouse, even on your wedding day.
The next step is to develop a plan to help you handle nervousness as your wedding day approaches.
Thank you for reading, and we genuinely hope that you are feeling better about your special day!
