Wedding prep for Christian Couples could mean different things depending on where you are in your faith journey and your relationship.
Wedding Prep for Christian Couples
Your wedding preparation before getting married could not be more critical as you prepare for your Wedding Day but, more importantly, for your Christian Marriage. As an Engaged Couple, The steps you take will be the foundation for your wedding process and your lifetime in marriage. Anyone who has been married will tell you that married life is beautiful and also challenging. But preparation will help you to succeed. Although these steps are of utmost importance, a clear plan and putting God first in your planning will go far. The steps you take to prepare for this great blessing and responsibility are designed to support you and not take away from your relationship.
The first thing to consider regarding wedding prep for Christian couples is to take your time. The marriage preparation process for a lifetime relationship is not something you want to rush into. One of the directions from pastors officiating a wedding is that marriage is not something to run into unadvisedly, or in other words, too quickly without input and encouragement. Take as much time as you need. The foundation of a Christ-centered marriage is worth the wait and the effort. Your future spouse will appreciate that you took your time ensuring you are well prepared. Healthy marriages have this in common.
Be prayerful and listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit when you are ready to move forward to the next step. This is not something you move forward with because a certain amount of time has passed. You want to be sure that you are moving at the best pace for both of you and that God has set out for your journey together. Taking your time will support your readiness for marriage.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t set goals for your timeline. It just means that when you get to the next milestone and don’t think you are where you wanted to be, it’s ok to say to one another that you need more time to be sure that you are in the best place emotionally and spiritually.
The best thing about this wedding prep for Christian couples action items is that they are evergreen. You can continue to do these action steps throughout your marriage. Visit and re-visit them as often as necessary.
Reducing Stress While Planning
Our genuine aim is that this post will help reduce the stress of wedding planning and preparation. That is the purpose of Wedistry!
Therefore, you will only need this article if you are getting married; however, the action steps I recommend here are helpful for both engaged and married couples. For example, it always helps to speak with someone with experience in the area you are entering. More on this later.
The best news is that there is very little to no chance that any of these steps will harm your relationship. Preparing, especially when you keep true to your faith practice, is always helpful in some form.
Action Steps: Getting Married
- Schedule counseling with your officiant (this is a 2 in 1)
- Start writing your vows together
- Meet with a mentor couple that you respect and interview them. Here are the questions to ask your mentor couple:
-What are your daily and weekly spiritual practices that have helped to sustain your marriage?
-After one year, what did you learn most? Five years? (Feel free to meet with as many couples as you like, but one couple should be married for at least five years. Sponsored Links
It’s also a great idea to meet with meet with a financial planner. One of the most important aspects of a marriage is the financial preparation process. You can find an online program that helps to guide you through your budgeting process or meet with someone in person if you prefer. Again, this is a component of marriage preparation that will help you just as much as any other area of course other than your spiritual marriage prep. Sure, other aspects of marriage are important however you must have a solid financial foundation if you will do well.
-This is also an excellent opportunity to discuss your future planning, including retirement preparation, family planning, and writing your will.
Some other must-do’s are to have fun together!
Have a fun date night!
First, check out this post about fun date night ideas! You can always find something new and exciting in your backyard. It just takes some planning, a little research, and creativity.
- Make sure that the stresses of preparing for your wedding don’t eclipse your actual marriage preparation. This includes having fun with one another. Enjoy a date that you will not be able to do later. This is different than having a fun date in your hometown. If possible, make something that you know that you won’t be able to do later, such as traveling overseas, something adventurous, hiking, skiing, or a cross-country trip.
We hope you enjoy taking these steps with your loved one!
The best thing about these action items is that they are evergreen. You can continue to do these action steps throughout your marriage.
Finally, the next step is to take the next step. We recommend scheduling your officiant and counseling first because this step depends on someone else’s schedule.
Thank you for reading this blog post. I hope it was helpful to you!